November '17 Spotify Playlist

22 November 2017



There's a lot of new discoveries in this playlist, 30% of them were shazam'ed in random bars. 

The first month of studying abroad was definitely the most awkward one as forced socialising isn't really my thing. November, however, was great, I feel like I've settled in a bit, got to know a couple of people and kinda got my shit together, kinda.

It also turns out bartenders at the bar's I usually go to have a great taste in music, so quite a few songs in this playlist are thanks to slightly intoxicated shazam'ing.




x,
Alex

Time management, how to be less of a mess

30 October 2017
Stress is a choice, but it's one I make multiple times a day.
I can stress myself out to the point where I feel physically sick, which isn't great, but I've gotten better at keeping my cool over the last couple of years.
The main things that have helped me are structure and self control.

Whenever I feel like I don't have any control over a situation (which happens a lot), I stress.
In recent years I've learned to counter this by finding structure in what I'm doing, which gives me a sense of control. I try to always think ahead and make sense out of everything that is going to happen. Feeling like I know what's ahead is what truly gives me inner peace.


 If you don't have stress or control issues this might not make any sense to you, but if you're an avid procrastinator the following tips might still help you out.


1. The Planner

Get one, and actually use it.
Planner - FRINGE

Owning a planner is one thing, actually putting it to use in an efficient way is another. I try to always put my full day schedule in my planner as well as the most important things I have to get done.

Pick one that fits in your work/uni bag and make sure you bring it everywhere, and oh yeah, don't forget a pen. As soon as you get a task or plan to meet up with someone, write it down asap.


2. The List

The controlfreak in me's brainchild.
The concept is simple, you write everything you have to do down (per day or per week, whatever works for you) and do, at least, one thing of the list before 'doing something fun'. This, of course, does not work if you don't combine it with some self control. Doing the dishes to then watch 4 episodes of Stranger Things isn't exactly balanced.
If you make a list a such, remember that it's to help yourself, there's no use to cheating it.

3. The Watch

And I'm not talking about your phone.
Watch - Daniel Wellington  28mm Classic Petite Sterling
 You can go to www.danielwellington.com  and use the code 'alexandralicewolf' for 15% off 
(until 20/12/2017) 

Most of us have a habit of checking the time on our phones, which is convenient, but also very distracting.
If you're anything like me, checking your phone for the time is often an incentive for 20 minutes of mindless Facebook and/or Instagram scrolling. Avoid this by wearing a watch and having a clock in your room (or house). This significantly lowers the chance of you 'quickly' checking the time on your phone and spending unnecessary time on social media.  


These are some of my easy tips.
Long story short, remember to take some deep breaths from time to time and have some self control.




Some of the products featured in this post were gifted to me. This however is not a sponsored post, and all opinions are my own.

x,
Alex


October '17 Spotify Playlist

24 October 2017

October was a month full of great musical discoveries.

Why? You might ask.
Because, I moved to another country and started off without friends or anything to do, so I just had a lot of time on my hands. 
Apart from that, there have been a lot of new releases in the last couple of months. Wolf Alice released 'Visions Of A Life', The Killers finally dropped a new album, Oscar & The Wolf released some new material after a 6 month delay and the most unexpected one, Air Traffic released their new single 'Almost Human' after 8 years of complete silence. 
So here's something old, something new, some classics and an ABBA song that feels slightly out of place.





x,
Alex

You'll never walk alone, some Erasmus wisdom

13 October 2017
I'm away for the year, in case you didn't know.


And this majestic building is my school. Or contains my school amongst a lot of other things to be more precise. Beautiful, right?

Studying abroad is something I've wanted to do for quite a while now. I, personally, think it's a great way to get to know yourself better, as a person, and become more independent.
The benefits of being away from your trusted environment for a prolonged amount of time, of course, comes with some struggles as well.
To be 'alone' and see yourself  in a completely new environment gives you a lot of insight into who you are, these insights being both positive and negative.
On my first day here, for example, I realised that I had no idea how to interact with people in a completely new and unfamiliar environment. I had no idea how to 'make friends' or start a conversation with complete strangers. That was quite panic-y considering the fact that I'm going to be here for a whole year, but this, at the same time, forced me to go beyond what I was comfortable with and talk to complete strangers. Which went better than expected.
During the past week I've met and abundance of new, lovely, inspiring people, just by walking up to them and starting a conversation. These conversations could be as simple as 'Where's class room 1248?' or 'Do you know where the international office is?', but asking people basic questions, that you probably need the answer too, makes you a familiar face to them. And if there an Erasmus student too, chances are that they're also on the hunt for people to spend some time with, people who can make this new town feel like home

Erasmus pro tip: Everyone's alone
If you're going to study abroad, and you have the same insecurities as me, remember that everyone's alone. People that go on Erasmus rarely go in pairs or groups. Everyone's looking for friends, someone to grab a beer with or a lunch buddy. 




When I first walked into my apartment, I must admit that I panicked a bit. 
For the past year I've always been very sure of my decision to leave and study somewhere else for a year, but once I got in the car and we started driving that's when it really sunk in what I was about to do.
We decided to drive from Amsterdam to Warsaw, which gave me a lot of time to think about everything. And in situations where you have a lot of time to (over)think, as some of you might know, your brain isn't always your best friend. But hey, it's normal to be a bit stressed about leaving everyone and everything you know for a year.

Something that helped me tremendously, to make my place here feel like home are the 'bits of home' that I brought with me.
I took all the goodbye cards, birthday cards, polaroids and photo-booth pictures that I could find in my room and hung them up all around my studio. This makes this place feel a lot more like home.
If this doesn't fully make your place feel like home, try to use the same color palette as your room at home, bring your own pillow and/or  room decor and try to surround yourself with familiar scents (I brought some of my favourited scented candles).
Anyplace can be home, don't worry, you'll make it work.

Erasmus pro tip: Bring a piece of home with you
What makes your room at home feel like home? Try to answer that question and put the answer into action at the new place you're living at.



Now let's talk about friends. 
Leaving your friends and family for a year isn't exactly the most pleasurable think I can think of, but think about the amazing experience you're getting in return. And keep in mind that this is the 21st century, so people are never more than a call, skype or facetime away. 

My grandma wasn't very pleased with the fact that I was leaving and I wasn't really looking forward to not seeing my grandma for months (we're besties). But I got creative and got her a webcam. Now we have Skype dates multiple times a week where we have coffee and catch up on each others lives. 

Erasmus pro tip: They're only one call away
Feel like talking to your friends? Just do it, you might not be able to do it face to face, but today's society comes with a lot of different ways to get/stay in touch with people.



It's normal to be homesick, but don't let that get in the way of the lovely experiences you're going to have when studying abroad.
Be as open to new experiences and doing things with new people. If you're classmates want to get brunch, go to a museum or take a weekend trip, don't overthink it, join them. You'll be surprised how much fun it is to do something with a completely new group of people.

Erasmus pro tip: Embrace the newness
Familiarity is comfortable, but newness is a hell of a lot of fun.


x,
Alex

September '17 Spotify Playlist

3 October 2017



More justified title: 'Anthems to pack your shit to'.
For real.

As some of you may or may not know, I've recently moved to Warsaw. And by recently I mean literally a week ago. Before moving however I had to somehow get my shit together, literally and figuratively.
Packing has never been my strong point (is it anyone's really?), and most definitely not when I have to pack my whole life into boxes and suitcases that can be contained by an average sized car.

I do not only have an odd attachment to a lot of small, hard to pack, objectively useless objects, I also have no spatial insight whatsoever, apparently. But hey, I got here, and I have a lot of stuff to get me through the year.

I moved here to study by the way. Studying abroad has been on my mind for a fair bit, but being a tourist in a randomly chosen sunny European destination for a year isn't really my thing, so I went with Poland. My mom's Polish and most of my family lives in Warsaw, so it somewhat feels like home. 

Stay tuned for more Warsaw adventures.
Enjoy!




x,
Alex

August '17 Spotify Playlist

1 September 2017



August's over,
and I still haven't kept my promise of posting these playlists on time.

August has been been great, music-wise. Declan McKenna released his first album, I finally got to have a good listen to Lana Del Rey's 'Lust For Life' and I found out that Selena Gomez's 'comeback' is more than promising. 

Due to my love for playlist-making, and the fact that I'm studying abroad for a year next year and throwing a goodbye party,  august has also been taken up by creating the perfect party playlist. Which I might share later, when it's party-tested and party approved. 
I decided to throw an early 2000s themed party. The early 2000s being a goldmine both fashion- and music-wise has kept me busy for a fair amount of time.
Long story short, I've been wearing a Juicy Couture tracksuit around the house and rediscovered old Fall Out Boy music.

That aside, here are my musical companions for August.





x,
Alex

Unpublished IV




























x,
Alex

July '17 Spotify Playlist

2 August 2017



I went to a music festival at the beginning of the month and have been listening to the same couple of songs over and over again just to be brought back to the good festival vibes.
Not the most inventive or elaborate playlist I've ever posted, but one that definitely got a lot of love and listens this month.

Enjoy!


x,
Alex

Unpublished III



It's not because it doesn't fit into my Instagram theme that it shouldn't be published.




June '17 Spotify Playlist

13 July 2017

It's really, really, really late, but I didn't want to miss out on a playlist, so let's just ignore the post date, shall we?

June was a month of looking forward to things, the end of finals, summer and last, but not least, music festivals.
So here's a combination of music that will calm you down and inject you with positive vibes.




x,
Alex

May '17 Spotify Playlist

13 June 2017


Better late than never, right?

I usually post my playlists for a certain month at the end of that month, which doesn't really make sense, considering naming the playlist after the month that people will actually be listening to it makes way more sense. So that's what I'm going to try and do from now on.
And real talk, I need to find a better visual representation for my playlists than my current shitty Canva 'collages'. But hey, blogging is a process of growth so things will get better, somehow, someday. 

That being said let's move on the the actual playlist.
Good weather makes me happy, and we've had a lot of it. And it didn't just kinda 'lift me up', I've felt like a straight up ray of sunshine during the whole of May and this playlist sure reflects that. 
Everything's a bit softer, happier and on average 23% less depressing than previous playlists. 

This is the part where I initially wrote some kind of apology for the amount of Harry Styles songs in the playlist, but then I realised that's not something I should apologise for. Your taste in music or any kind of cultural consumption or self expression is not something you should be ashamed of, or apologise for, ever, EVER.
When you see people enjoy or do certain things that make them happy and don't harm you, leave them be. There's absolutely nothing cool about shaming people for liking things that are too popular, obscure or basic. If certain music makes certain people happy let them be happy.
If you find joy in listening to a certain artist, you wan't the whole world to experience that warm, fuzzy feeling as well, no? I don't see the point to people taking pride in listening to artists that are unknown and wanting them to stay that way. If you truly like that artist and look up to them in some way you'd want them to have ambition and get somewhere with their music, right? And if that music makes you happy you want nothing more than for as many people as possible to experience the positive vibes you get from that music as well, don't you? But hey, that's just my opinion.

Enough ranting, here's the playlist.




x,
Alex

Things to do, when you don't know what to do

7 June 2017


You know those times where you feel lost and alone, and you don't really know what to do or what you want in life? Yeah, you're not alone. And here are the things that help me, personally, through times like that.
Hope it helps some of you.

1. Get over yourself

Just kidding, don't do that, that's not a thing. Remember that.

2. Try to think about what you want as an individual 

I want to emphasise the 'what you want' part here. Not what you think you should want, what other people tell you you want or what your environment wants you to want. Try to filter out all pressure from outside and look at what you want for yourself. This is obviously easier said than done. But at least try to do some things just for yourself. Even if it's something small like buying flowers or doing some yoga. 
Sometimes I find myself overwhelmed by the amount of things I have to do, and oftentimes I realise they're things I don't really want to do, but I feel like I have to do. It's great that your helping your friends, parents, neighbours, etc., but learn to see when you need help, and make time to help yourself. Taking even as little as 30 minutes a day to do something just for yourself doesn't make you a bad person. 
And if you're not happy with the future you see ahead of you, do everything in your power to change it, because in the end you're the only person truly in control of your life and your future. 

3. No one's perfect

So you failed a test, final, semester or school in general. Sometimes you make mistakes, everyone does, even though it might not feel like it at times.
Obviously mistakes have repercussions, but most of them are temporary, and even if they're not, you can't let them get the best of you, so stop beating yourself up over them. You can't change things that happened in the past, you can just learn from them and try to live with them. 
So go ahead, make mistakes, you're only human after all.



4. Remember the only thing standing between you and what you want is yourself,
and a lot of other things probably, but you catch my drift 

Have you ever been in the situation where you want something, but you're not completely sure if you're going to succeed, so you just don't try? Stop doing that.
Self sabotaging is a very common and normal thing. Our brain is programmed to averse loss, rather than seek gains (this is actually true). But once you make yourself aware of this you can try and work around it. Being afraid to fail is normal, but trying to be stronger than that fear can sometimes lead to great things.

6. Set a goal and work towards it

If you feel like you're not progressing in any kind of way, set a goal that you can work towards. This can be as big or small as you want. I am currently working towards studying abroad. This goal that I have put out for myself in the future gives me something tangible to work towards, a motivation. And of course having something to work towards doesn't make the road less bumpy, but they make the bumps more bearable, and even worth it in a way. Sometimes I feel like I'm not going anywhere and I don't really know why I'm doing what I'm doing, but having some kind of finish line, makes everything more worthwhile, for me personally. 

5. Create some kind of structure

When I feel overwhelmed and powerless, I try to regain my sense of control by creating structure. Sounds a bit abstract, but for me this implies, filling in my calendar and planning the weeks ahead. This way I feel like I know what's coming and this gives me some kind of inner peace. For you this might mean cleaning your room, reorganising your desk, starting a new hobby, etc. Just look for something that makes you feel like you have control over your life, because you do.



7. Think about what makes you, you, and learn to love those things

I sometimes feel lost thinking about who I am or who I'm supposed to be. Do I do certain things because that's who I am, or because that's what I think I should do to answer to some kind of pressure I feel.
I'm awkward, like 'out there clothes' and don't like to open up to people. Things I often feel I have to change, but I know I don't. Forcing myself to open up to people, trying to look socially competent and dressing 'like I'm supposed to dress', isn't going to make me a better person, in contrary. The person you're the best at being, is yourself, so just be that, or at least try your very best.
I sometimes, and I know I'm not alone at this, lose myself in what I'm trying to be instead of just being myself. Constantly overthinking what other people think about you and how you should behave is draining, just shamelessly being yourself is a lot easier, trust me. And I must admit that I haven't mastered this myself either. Everyone gets insecure and feels like they need to change themselves in some way to conform to some kind of standard, and that's normal. But try to not give a shit from time to time, it's a truly amazing feeling.

8. Be nice to people

Sometimes when you feel bad, you radiate that towards your environment, which is normal, but trying to be nice and talking to people about what's bugging you actually helps an awful lot more. 
I used to be the bitter person that translated their insecurities into anger, which didn't really get me anywhere to be honest. 
Trying to be nice to people, actually makes you feel good, because when you give positivity, you oftentimes get positivity back. This in no way means that you have to be permanently happy and hide the way you feel because that's not how it works, but don't translate whatever your feeling into anger towards people who have nothing to do with it either. Talk to them instead.
Even when people are aggressive or disproportionately mean to you, try to be the bigger person. Put yourself in their position and try to understand why they'd behave the way they do, and try to help or leave their behaviour behind you.

9. Remember it's okay, not to be okay

You know how sometimes you'll tell people about something you're going through and they just react with 'Well, if that's tough on you wait until real life hits you.'.
Reality flash to those people, you're not helping, at all. And advice to for the people who've ever received that reaction, don't be bothered by it. Sure, some situations might call for some 'tough love', but most of them don't, most definitely not when they're mental health issues.
You might feel like you have to be happy and on top of everything all the time, but that's just not how life works. 




This is not a solution for life, just some tips to make the little things that make the big things seem even harder more bearable. This is not going to help you through losing a relative, your parents' divorce or whatever bad situation you might be dealing with at the moment, but I hope it can at least bring you some peace in a way.


x,
Alex








April '17 Spotify Playlist

4 May 2017



Here's May for ya.

Going through my Spotify recently I noticed I've been making these every month for almost 2 years now. That feels like such a long time. I then also proceeded to go through every single playlist, all 21 of them.
It was funny to see how my music taste has evolved, but essentially, is still the same. I've discovered quite a bit of new music over the past 2 years and I learned to dig deeper in my search for new music, but every playlist still evolves around a handful of 'core' artist that define my taste in music.

Enough general information. This months playlist is a feel good playlist, no overly depressing or down songs, just a good accumulation of good vibes. 





x,
Alex

Red and Zebra

1 May 2017
I think I'm gonna add some life update kinda things to this post.
Let me know if I get too cringy at any point, will ya?

So first of, the pictures below. This outfit is basically my uniform.
The leopard print and biker jacket give it an 'edge' (kinda hate that word, but you catch my drift) and the lace up heels give it a fun 'girly' touch (also hate that word, will work on expanding my English blogging vocabulary sometime in the future). The combination of the above with mom jeans makes for a very comfortable combination. 

So, some life things.
It's a kinda busy/stressful period considering exams are soon, deadlines are piling up and the Erasmus pressure is on. I got lucky this period and only have 4 exams (compared to 8 last period), but the fact that every mark gets me closer to Erasmus or removes me further from it adds an extra edge to every piece of schoolwork I deliver. 
I'm planning to go on Erasmus to Warsaw next year, for a whole year, but that requires me to pass every subject this year, which isn't too self-evident in Belgian uni culture. Combining the school pressure with looking for a place to live, planning the trip there etc. knowing that failing 1 class could possibly mean having to cancel everything creates a quite a bit of stress. 
But hey, nothing's impossible so I'm just going for it, keeping in mind that things might not go exactly as I want them to. A healthy attitude if I say so myself.

Apart from that I've also been experimenting with Instagram and blogging quite a bit.
I've gone through a variety Instagram fases ranging from posting whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted to sticking to a very defined theme that required specific colors and editing. At this point I think I'm somewhere in the middle, I want everything to kinda fit together and I delete things that break my feed from time to time, but there's room for spontaneous pictures and all kinds of settings.
As far as blogging goes, I'm still not quite sure what to do and how to do it, so I just post what I feel like whenever I feel like it. I might keep things this way and keep this as a no pressure platform that's an extension of my Instagram and a musical outlet.
Let me know what you think!














Here's one in color for outfit references, but real talk, everything's better in black and white.

Top - Bershka
Jacket - H&M
Jeans - Bershka
Shoes - Bershka

None of the above are linked, due to the fact that everything I'm wearing is relatively old.
I would apologise, but then again, I don't buy new clothes every week.
 Enjoy the outfit inspo!

Pics by Kawtar 

x,
Alex



Off the shoulder pt. I

9 April 2017

Thank god off the shoulder tops are still a thing.

The 'pt. I' thing might make you think there's a second part coming soon, but I don't really know if it is. I'm pretty sure that I'm going to make some kind of off the shoulder top blogpost in the future and will probably not have inspiration for a title. The title is just me saving my future self.
Considering this off the shoulder top is basically my uniform, I couldn't decide on one outfit, so here's two.
The first (I) one is more of a day to day look that I upped a bit with some statement earrings (no worries, they're not as heavy as they look). Combined with some pink Chloé-esque sandals it's a super comfortable, casual outfit.
The second (II) outfit is a more formal, classic look, that you could wear to college, work, meetings, whatever you want. It's fairly neutral which makes it perfect for serving multiple purposes.

Enjoy!


I.



Unpublished II

3 April 2017

My Instagram has a theme know (kinda).
Which means a lot more unpublished pictures and deleted pictures, and for some reason I think it's a good idea to throw these into a blogpost. I have no clue how to introduce these kind of posts because there is no consistency to the images whatsoever, it's pure chaos.
Enjoy the chaos.


Faux fur & Red Boots

Outfit post nr. II

Improvement has been made and every picture is at least 7,9% less awkward than the last outfit post.
At this pace you'll get a decent outfit posts in about a year, woohoo, *that confetti party emoji*.

We've had some very sunny days the last couple of weeks, but I am in no way ready to part with
faux fur. So I basically bought a faux fur jacket from the kids section at Primark, that is so tiny it looks cropped when I wear it, and pretend it's spring appropriate. #lifehack

March '17 Spotify Playlist

2 April 2017

Well, March was fun.

The sun's out and that calls for positive, summery vibes and grime, that too, for some reason.







x,
Alex

February '17 Spotify Playlist

6 March 2017
I'm late.

We're well in to March, but I couldn't deal the idea of missing a monthly playlist. This one had a general 'woohoo' exams are done, let's go wild vibe to it.





x,
Alex

Current music favourites

5 March 2017
Music is like, a pretty big deal to me.

It's what wakes me up in the morning, gets me going during the day and makes me fall asleep at night. It's my shoulder to cry on and my partner in crime. Music and the people behind it make life so much better, hence why they mean a big deal to me. 
For the longest time I've had an on/off outsider status, as fashion changed so did people's opinion on me. This has not only thought me to stick to my personal style and stay true to myself, but has also caused me to look for motivation in music rather than in other people.
Nothing can put a smile on my face or make me cry like music does. Nothing can comfort me or make me feel like everything's alright like music does. It's a necessity.

Long story short, I'm a professional fangirl in a loving relationship with her Spotify subscription.

My current partners in crime:

1. Blossoms